Self Harm

Sadly, many people do not understand self-harm. Consequently people who this behaviour often display a great deal of shame and guilt around it.

Self-harm can take many forms. Cutting, alcohol and drug abuse. People who struggle with eating disorders may be self harming.

People self injure in different ways and it can be a minor or high-risk action or behaviour which causes harm.

At Justforyoucounselling our therapists will listen to you. We will not mock or ridicule you. We will be with you and try to help you to understand your motivations. We want to help.

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A great source of info about Self injury


Stress is an adverse reaction we have to excessive pressure or other situations we face in our lives. It can leave us feeling overwhelmed or overloaded by the demands placed upon us.

It may be a response to the feeling that we have more work to do than we can fit into our working day, or it could be related to worries about finances, relationships or a change in our circumstances, such as moving house.


Anxiety is a normal part of life and will affect all of us in different ways at different times. The cause of your anxiety may not be fully clear, or, the reason for your anxiety may actually be very clear to you such as a traumatic experience, having many stresses in life or significant life events like divorce.


​Becoming depressed is very natural for humans, whether it be your genetics, brain chemistry, hormones or environment.

Our western society doesn’t really allow for depression, this is great for our survival as a species but this thinking style doesn’t help when you’re depressed, as it can often lead to a negative view of yourself. When trying to accept your depression, it might be useful to:


What is “normal”?

Your sexuality is a very personal experience. Our society places a lot of expectations on who we should be. Not many people can completely conform to these rules. Thankfully attitudes have changed, and these days it’s normal to see same sex couples in the mainstream media as well as in real life. That said, many of us still struggle to come to terms with sexual desires outside the parameters expected by society, our families and partners. Guilt around sexuality and gender Is very common.


In Western culture, sexual attraction to the opposite sex is regarded as normal. Straight sex would appear to be how the majority of people experience their sex lives. It is how we usually start the process of procreation after all. Consequently the person who does not conform to this “Straight Normality” can feel shame and guilt around their desires.

Other Sexual and Gender expressions

There is a huge variation in how humans express their sexuality and gender. Depending who you believe, there are between one and forty seven different sexualities

Do you think thats a lot? That doesnt even touch on Gender discriptions. Regarded as being somewhere between two and Seventy two. In other words, gender expression is vast.

In our experience, sexuality and gender are hardly ever just straight or gay, male or female. Once we dig under the surface, even the most macho of guys, has an interest or hobby that society regards as feminine.

How Can Counselling help?

Counsellors usually go through a very long process of discovering themselves. It is what good training courses concentrate on. As a result, having learned to accept ourselves, we find it easier to accept what others find shameful about themselves. We will understand your guilt around sexuality and gender. In short, we will listen to your story, we will accept and cherish you. To us, it doesn’t matter where your sexuality or gender identity lies.

Grief Counselling

Grief / Bereavement can be a difficult emotion

About Grief Counselling Robert, our lead counsellor says “Grief is something that almost all of us will experience at some time. Grief can bring the best, and worst in people. Families can descend into complete chaos around the death of a loved one”.

Our Counsellors will work with you to explore your feelings around the death of your loved one. During grief counselling we will try to explore the chaos and anger that you may feel around your grief. We understand that the death of a loved one never leaves us, we hope to help you to learn to live with the pain, whilst honouring their life.

Self Help

There are no quick fixes to grief. We believe that grief counselling is an effective way to help you deal with your emotions. sometimes you may not be able to get professional help, so try to recognise that grief is a very individual experience, you will experience it differently to everyone else around you. Do your best to avoid being isolated, having people around will help when the emotions become overpowering. Drugs and alcohol may not help as much as you think. Do something healthy, It’s good to keep up some of your routine -For example Walk the dog – Go to the gym. Remember those around you will be struggling too. In short, be kind to yourself, your managing this the best you can.

The Charity Cruse offer great Information and support around bereavement.

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